How to Start a Conversation

howtostartaconversationEver been in a situation where you need to strike up a conversation with a stranger? It's not easy, is it?

There isn’t always a friend and an acquaintance to introduce you to a new person, but it is part of our social DNA to meet new people may it be suspicion of common interests. 

Before starting a conversation with a stranger you may need to assess your environment sometimes the place itself can be a conversation item. In these four easy steps you could break the ice and start a conversation with your new acquaintance. 

First of all you need to be casual. Body language plays a role and if you are relaxed others may understand how approachable you are and that’s a networking advantage. Eye contact prior to the initial conversation communicates that you acknowledge the person’s existence. Say hello and or introduce yourself. 

Second step after introduction are basic questions. As mentioned earlier you could talk about an item in your environment and move to asking what their interests are and what line of work they are in. 

Third step is be genuinely interested. Ask a follow up question with more involvement and be a good listener. By being interested you would be perceived to be interesting. 

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” - Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People 

Fourth step is giving the control of the conversation to the newly acquainted. By doing that they may feel they have much autonomy in the conversation as you do. In these easy four steps you have pulled a stranger into your network of acquaintances and friends.